how to make your wedding personal to you



Risking sounding like a broken record I can’t believe how quickly this year is going! Everyone said the year of wedding planning would race by and they weren’t wrong! We had another meeting at our wedding venue Coombe Trenchard on Friday which was absolutely lovely! Its made us feel we are definitely on track and Sarah and Emily are so lovely and accommodating … you really feel like they want your wedding to be a true reflection of you as a couple and not like you are just another in a long train of couples who need to fit around them and how their wedding venue works. I know from speaking to so many brides and grooms over the years that this is not always the case so I feel very luck to have found such a wonderful venue.

It got me thinking about how that is my favourite part of working with my couples who order stationery from me. Whether the stationery is one of my standard collections or a completely bespoke design I always try my best to make the invitations as personal to them and their wedding as possible. Its why I will never place any restrictions on wording or give couples a template they have to stick to … It’s just not what I think weddings are about!

So how do you make your wedding personal to you as possible ?

Ditch the rule book!

I think one of the main questions I get asked all the time when clients are planning their weddings is “is this how it’s normally done?”. To be fair I can understand. Planning a wedding is something most people will have never done before. You often have no idea about where to even start, let alone what you should and shouldn’t include. Its often much easier to say well if this is how it’s traditionally done lets go with that. But I think with every decision that you make with regards to your wedding you have to sit back for a minute and ask yourself is this something which is right for us as a couple? Several times during my wedding planning I’ve felt like I ‘should’ have something because I know somebody in the industry who does that thing. Ant has been brilliant though, as an industry outsider, for checking for a second and saying that’s not really us is it! So for everything a magazine ‘tells’ you you ‘should’ have take a minute to decide whether you want it. Don’t be swayed by tradition if its not who you are. We, for example, are not having adult bridesmaids or ushers and we are walking in to our ceremony together and spending the night before together. I’m not one for superstition.

Create a moodboard

Whether this be a physical board, scrapbook or a collection of images on Pinterest, spend some time before you really start planning to look at ideas that appeal to you both and what you love and loath about weddings. Don’t limit yourself to wedding images though! No-one wants to see another identikit Pinterest wedding! They want to see you and your personalities. So include in your moodboard things you love to do in your spare time, books you love, films you adore … what your passions are. You will often find that this naturally creates an idea of how you would like your wedding to look … sometimes it might even suggest a colour scheme you may not have realised you have to your life! We have started decorating our new house in a palette of navy’s and greys with pops of colour and so it seemed natural to include navy in our wedding scheme … a very pale pastel wedding would just not have been us.

Think about your friends and family

How do those closest to you see you as a couple ? You want your day to reflect who you are and how people see you. Asking friends and family for what they see as ‘your’ colour or personality might be really interesting and throw up things you may never have thought of. (Although obviously make sure they don’t think they can get too involved!) Its also lovely to think about what your friends and family like to do and how to incorporate things that they will find fun into the day as well. There is no point having a day which reflects you both completely if everyone of your guests is going to have a miserable time!

I really hope that gives you a starting point for your own wedding planning and how to make it personal to you. We’ve had so much fun planning our ideas that I hope everyone else enjoys it too!

Nikki x


Why Wedding Stationery – Colour and Inspiration



Wow it’s been such an amazing week here at Knots & Kisses! Last Friday I attended the most amazing wedding industry event … Chosen Wedding Collective’s ‘The Hub’. A day filled with inspirational talks by some amazing women, I went there thinking I would get lots of practical advice on how to increase orders and improve my business … and this was available in bucket loads! What I wasn’t expecting though was to come away feeling inspired, revitalised, focused and actually happier beyond belief about my future than I have been in ages and confident of a totally new way of working! I created the above image a few weeks ago when Kiki, who runs the Chosen Wedding Collective, asked me to produce some postcards for the bags that were being handed out on the day. Little did I know at the time how true the ‘Be Inspired’ motto was going to be!

Practicly I got some amazing tips from Madeleine Noble Jones, Kate Cullen and Anna Tyler about SEO, Pinterest and Legal Rights which were amazingly helpful. Amy from Bo Boutique got me really thinking about my business and how to progress and make it more about what I want to do. There was also the most inspirational talk from the wonderful Charlie Kingsland-Barrow about how we work and why we do what we do – which left me so motivated, even though she made me dance in public! , that I virtually ran back to my desk on Monday morning to start implementing some of the things we had talked about.

Talks from the wonderful Cat Hepple and Tamyrn Lawrence had me almost in tears as they revealed the passion that lay behind their work and showed me that I needed to get back to what started my passion for stationery way back when I started Knots & Kisses 6 years ago. It got me thinking about really writing blog posts that were from the heart rather than just ‘throwing stuff out there’ because I felt I needed to blog.

Cat got me thinking about really why I create stationery … I started to think about how much I loved to inspire people to put fun, colour and creativity into their own lives. How passionate I can get when a splash of colour can brighten up a dull grey day, whether that be putting on a bright yellow scarf before heading out the door or enjoying watching the bright blue and yellow flash of a blue tit out the kitchen window yesterday whilst making my morning cup of tea. My whole life is about things not being beige! And that is what started Knots & Kisses really … not the friends and work colleagues who needed the stationery, or the need to do something more creative with my life, which are the usual answers I give … but the feeling like I needed to inject a bit of colour and personality into things!

So Knots & Kisses is about colour and fun and textures and prettiness .. and most importantly about me and my clients expressing our personality through stationery. It is about that feeling that I get when I have sent a bespoke design off to a client and they come back and they are over the moon because it fits their wedding so perfectly, and my heart skips a beat when I get the email … because what if it was wrong, what if my instincts weren’t right … and then I punch the air and squeal slightly when they say how much they love it!

It is about me unashamedly admitting that I love flowers and florals and filling my house with flowers at any given opportunity, and so yes lots of my stationery has a floral theme. Its about loving trends and trying out new colour schemes and patterns and loving pretty bits of lace and ribbon and the texture of brown kraft card and twine. It’s about fun and frippery and not being embarrassed about that.

It’s about taking your ‘marriage’ seriously but having fun with your ‘wedding’.

So from now on I’m going to think about all of this every time I write a blog post, post a picture on instagram or start on a design for a client or a new range of stationery, because I want to put this sense of fun and colour into everything I do.

Have a wonderful, colourful weekend!

Nikki x